Looking Behind…
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Thursday, December 31, 2009
3 Idiots
After a long time, i was motivated to write something on my blog. Its the movie-3 idiots. An awesome movie made with such care that allows its audience to feel the reality. The story is so true. Indian students know it well. Hats off to all the guys who made this movie possible. It made me miss my college days in India. Rightly said in the movie, 'Its a rat-race'. That's the situation in India. That is the reason there are so many machines produced! Literally! I am also not a 100% human!! The tragedy is that even the imperial institutes in India are teaching on the principle of slogging. That's the mentality there. Unless you slog, you are not studying or working.I believe the best student life is enjoyed by Engineering, Medical, Fine arts and Architecture students in India. (Yeah, not the commerce or arts people! I am a commerce graduate myself!) I have seen these guys and they look so cool! We guys have fun but out of studies. They have it with their studies. Anyways, back to movie, it made me laugh and cry-together. The songs and the lyrics are awesome..one of them adopted from the Sutta song. I want to describe the movie in big words but i am out of vocabulary, too bad!! But i like to keep it simple.
To summarize, the movie is 'deep into the Indian world' and not something out of the world. I was so overwhelmed after watching the movie that i had to calm myself down by staying quiet. It was like, i wanted something like this to motivate me. The pressure is always high on me like Raju Rastogi. I guess that was the reason i was praying and at times begging to God for useless stuff back in India. Though i knew what should i pray for but sometimes i used to fall for asking for some crap. But after being in USA i have reduced praying. I don't know why? Was i praying only because i was afraid? Or i was aware of hardships that people face and that made me pray for them..? Strange human nature.. This and there are so many other stuffs that the movie made me ponder over.
I am looking forward to have a dvd of the movie and to be a person like Rancho!
Friday, September 25, 2009
Shahid Kapur!!!!
Shahid Kapur in Philly!!! What a surprise man! Mauja hi Mauja!! From L-R: Ali, Akshaya, Shahid, Sohin & Parikshit.
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
by Trent Hamm
My father has the most innate, natural grasp of mathematics of anyoneI’ve ever known. He can’t tell an equation from Greek, but when youback away from explaining things in terms of equations and insteadtalk about it conceptually, he understands intuitively a great deal ofmathematics. Conceptually, he understands it as well as I do, and Itook quite a bit of advanced math in college.
Not only that, he’s incredibly quick to pick up anything. He can fix aradio, dress and skin a rabbit, read a Pulitzer Prize-winning novel,run a trot line, entertain a dozen people, and conduct a veryinteresting debate about politics, often all in the same day.
The kicker is that my father never had the opportunity to evencomplete high school. He quit because he had a sick father who wasunable to work and three siblings who needed food on the table.
Every so often, I try to imagine him as a teenager. He made the choiceto do what he needed to do for his family without skipping a beat, andhe likely never knew or saw that he had the opportunity to do greatthings with his life. He had all of the tools he needed right betweenhis ears, but fate dealt him a different hand.
Bad Luck That Changes a LifeQuite often, the only difference between the people we look up to andthe people we look down upon are a handful of little events. A parentthat cared a little more. An unexpected death. A bad test result withno positive reaffirmation to get up and give it another shot. A lostpromotion. A hurtful comment at an emotionally weak moment. A flash ofanger, by them or by someone else. A bit of peer pressure. Theopportunity to make a connection with someone who can open a door.
Our lives are full of these little events, most of which are out ofour control. It’s those events - and how we react to them - thatdetermine much of what we have in life, and what we work for.
Hard for Some, Easy for OthersSome people are “lucky” in that they wound up on the right side ofmost of the coin flips in their life. Others are “unlucky” in thatsome events in their lives led them down a path away from where theirdreams might have taken them.
Take my father, for example. What might have happened to his life ifhe had completed school? Might he have met a teacher that inspired himor recognized his natural talents? That one moment in time - thesickness of his father and his caring for his family - changed hisentire life. He wound up never really leaving the town he grew up inand before he knew it, he was married, working in a factory and as acommercial fisherman for his “side hustle.”
What would have happened if he had stayed in school long enough forthe math to click into place for him? What if a teacher sees thatnatural skill and pushes him to pursue it, making a few phone callsand getting him some scholarships that get him into the nearbyuniversity? His life follows a completely different path.
But his life - and his moral character - didn’t lead him down thatpath. Instead of being a “lion of the community” and living in a nicehouse, he lives in the same small old house that I grew up in, one insore need of repair in places. Instead of going to the Lion’s Club, hehas a beer with his friends at a picnic table. All because he had ahardship hit his life, and he made the courageous choice to give uphis path and do what needed to be done.
Take another situation that pops into my mind. One of the most brightand cheerful and wonderful women I know, the third child of five,contracted polio as a child and, by early adulthood, was confined to awheelchair and eventually required a great deal of equipment andmedicine to even go through life. Through all of this, she’smaintained a sunny disposition. Her dream as a child was to have ahouse full of children, but life didn’t allow her to play that card.She has three beautiful sisters, all of whom had multiple children,and when you look back at their childhood and high school pictures,you see four equal young women, all with great opportunity in front ofthem. Three of them got to live their dreams, the fourth wound up withpolio.
It’s so easy to look around and see those who wound up withlower-paying jobs and a different social outcome and draw somenegative conclusions about them. They didn’t work as hard, or theydidn’t apply themselves, right? Only rarely is that actually the fullpicture.
Never Give UpMost of you reading this site - and me included - are among the luckyones. We’ve either not had many hardships in life or we’ve had enoughpositive luck to counteract the hardships.
But for those of you who have been knocked down by life, here are somelessons I’ve learned from the people in my life who have facedterrible luck and rolled through it to find whatever may come.
Don’t blame others. If something devastating has happened to youpersonally, don’t spend your time blaming others for it. Your problemsand challenges in life are not their fault. I happen to be deaf in oneear, which means that in some situations I simply can’t hear peoplespeaking on my left side. This is not their fault, and blaming themfor me not hearing their comment is foolish.
Get back up and try again. If you fail at what you’re trying toaccomplish or if life knocks you down, don’t curl up into a ball andgive up. Get right back up and give life another swing. I’ve watchedmany people give up on life because they hit a rocky patch - evenafter they came out the other side of it, they wallowed in self-pityand refused to get back up again. The mistakes and bad breaks of yourpast have nothing to do with your present.
Don’t be too proud to ask for help. When something disastrous befallsyou and you’re having a hard time picking up the pieces, ask for help.Ask your family for help. Ask your true friends for help. They will bethere for you when you need them, and they want to help you when thechips are down.
Make your mind up about others based on who they are and how they act,not by how they look or what they own. This is true for everyone. I’mreminded of a small company I’m familiar with. At one of them, themost naturally gifted person in the building is the janitor. He’lloften trudge by a group working on a project together and, off the topof his head, suggest an amazing solution for it. He does it so oftenthat many of the workers there actually seek out the janitor for inputon what they’re working on. But the company can’t promote this man, ohno, they can’t. He’s a lowly janitor who doesn’t have a degree. Eventhe people who ask him for help sneer about him behind his back.
As for me? If I were to start a competing business, that janitor wouldbe the first person I’d want to hire. He wears shabby clothes, talksslowly, and pushes a broom all day, but underneath that he hastremendous gifts, ones that are often ignored because people can’t getpast their first impression.
Jealousy does nothing more than drag you down. It’s easy to feeljealous of the successful person. We envy them and try to findexplanations for how they found success while we did not. Doing thatis a waste of time. Focusing on the fact that someone else had betterluck than you did is time spent not focusing on the aspects of yourlife that you can control. Don’t worry about the guy who just gotpromoted - worry instead about what you can do to snag the next one.
My father has the most innate, natural grasp of mathematics of anyoneI’ve ever known. He can’t tell an equation from Greek, but when youback away from explaining things in terms of equations and insteadtalk about it conceptually, he understands intuitively a great deal ofmathematics. Conceptually, he understands it as well as I do, and Itook quite a bit of advanced math in college.
Not only that, he’s incredibly quick to pick up anything. He can fix aradio, dress and skin a rabbit, read a Pulitzer Prize-winning novel,run a trot line, entertain a dozen people, and conduct a veryinteresting debate about politics, often all in the same day.
The kicker is that my father never had the opportunity to evencomplete high school. He quit because he had a sick father who wasunable to work and three siblings who needed food on the table.
Every so often, I try to imagine him as a teenager. He made the choiceto do what he needed to do for his family without skipping a beat, andhe likely never knew or saw that he had the opportunity to do greatthings with his life. He had all of the tools he needed right betweenhis ears, but fate dealt him a different hand.
Bad Luck That Changes a LifeQuite often, the only difference between the people we look up to andthe people we look down upon are a handful of little events. A parentthat cared a little more. An unexpected death. A bad test result withno positive reaffirmation to get up and give it another shot. A lostpromotion. A hurtful comment at an emotionally weak moment. A flash ofanger, by them or by someone else. A bit of peer pressure. Theopportunity to make a connection with someone who can open a door.
Our lives are full of these little events, most of which are out ofour control. It’s those events - and how we react to them - thatdetermine much of what we have in life, and what we work for.
Hard for Some, Easy for OthersSome people are “lucky” in that they wound up on the right side ofmost of the coin flips in their life. Others are “unlucky” in thatsome events in their lives led them down a path away from where theirdreams might have taken them.
Take my father, for example. What might have happened to his life ifhe had completed school? Might he have met a teacher that inspired himor recognized his natural talents? That one moment in time - thesickness of his father and his caring for his family - changed hisentire life. He wound up never really leaving the town he grew up inand before he knew it, he was married, working in a factory and as acommercial fisherman for his “side hustle.”
What would have happened if he had stayed in school long enough forthe math to click into place for him? What if a teacher sees thatnatural skill and pushes him to pursue it, making a few phone callsand getting him some scholarships that get him into the nearbyuniversity? His life follows a completely different path.
But his life - and his moral character - didn’t lead him down thatpath. Instead of being a “lion of the community” and living in a nicehouse, he lives in the same small old house that I grew up in, one insore need of repair in places. Instead of going to the Lion’s Club, hehas a beer with his friends at a picnic table. All because he had ahardship hit his life, and he made the courageous choice to give uphis path and do what needed to be done.
Take another situation that pops into my mind. One of the most brightand cheerful and wonderful women I know, the third child of five,contracted polio as a child and, by early adulthood, was confined to awheelchair and eventually required a great deal of equipment andmedicine to even go through life. Through all of this, she’smaintained a sunny disposition. Her dream as a child was to have ahouse full of children, but life didn’t allow her to play that card.She has three beautiful sisters, all of whom had multiple children,and when you look back at their childhood and high school pictures,you see four equal young women, all with great opportunity in front ofthem. Three of them got to live their dreams, the fourth wound up withpolio.
It’s so easy to look around and see those who wound up withlower-paying jobs and a different social outcome and draw somenegative conclusions about them. They didn’t work as hard, or theydidn’t apply themselves, right? Only rarely is that actually the fullpicture.
Never Give UpMost of you reading this site - and me included - are among the luckyones. We’ve either not had many hardships in life or we’ve had enoughpositive luck to counteract the hardships.
But for those of you who have been knocked down by life, here are somelessons I’ve learned from the people in my life who have facedterrible luck and rolled through it to find whatever may come.
Don’t blame others. If something devastating has happened to youpersonally, don’t spend your time blaming others for it. Your problemsand challenges in life are not their fault. I happen to be deaf in oneear, which means that in some situations I simply can’t hear peoplespeaking on my left side. This is not their fault, and blaming themfor me not hearing their comment is foolish.
Get back up and try again. If you fail at what you’re trying toaccomplish or if life knocks you down, don’t curl up into a ball andgive up. Get right back up and give life another swing. I’ve watchedmany people give up on life because they hit a rocky patch - evenafter they came out the other side of it, they wallowed in self-pityand refused to get back up again. The mistakes and bad breaks of yourpast have nothing to do with your present.
Don’t be too proud to ask for help. When something disastrous befallsyou and you’re having a hard time picking up the pieces, ask for help.Ask your family for help. Ask your true friends for help. They will bethere for you when you need them, and they want to help you when thechips are down.
Make your mind up about others based on who they are and how they act,not by how they look or what they own. This is true for everyone. I’mreminded of a small company I’m familiar with. At one of them, themost naturally gifted person in the building is the janitor. He’lloften trudge by a group working on a project together and, off the topof his head, suggest an amazing solution for it. He does it so oftenthat many of the workers there actually seek out the janitor for inputon what they’re working on. But the company can’t promote this man, ohno, they can’t. He’s a lowly janitor who doesn’t have a degree. Eventhe people who ask him for help sneer about him behind his back.
As for me? If I were to start a competing business, that janitor wouldbe the first person I’d want to hire. He wears shabby clothes, talksslowly, and pushes a broom all day, but underneath that he hastremendous gifts, ones that are often ignored because people can’t getpast their first impression.
Jealousy does nothing more than drag you down. It’s easy to feeljealous of the successful person. We envy them and try to findexplanations for how they found success while we did not. Doing thatis a waste of time. Focusing on the fact that someone else had betterluck than you did is time spent not focusing on the aspects of yourlife that you can control. Don’t worry about the guy who just gotpromoted - worry instead about what you can do to snag the next one.
Friday, September 18, 2009
Sometimes..
sometimes.. sometimes jus wanna be silent.. sometimes wanna stop n ponder where i wander..sometimes.. sometimes wanna sit by the window in a cold winter..watch people move by n wonder what do they think n while i don blink.. sometimes wanna run into someone's arms..sometimes wanna sleep in someone's lap.. sometimes wanna hold someone's palms... sometimes wanna hug n cry out all the tears n fears..sometime wanna live n die peacefully..sometimes..
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